Little things

This week's blog is a little bit different than what i'd usually do. It's something that is quite personal. Each one of my extended family members lives in a different city or is often abroad. I only get the privilege to see them every few months. A couple of weeks ago my uncle, knowing and following my passion for literature, gave me a book called Outliers by Malcom Gladwell. I started reading it about 2-3 days ago. It's such an intriguing book, but that's not my point. I'm neither talking about the writer, nor about the content of the book. I am talking about the gesture. The very fact that he thought of me, and remembered a detail of my personality that stood out to him and actually put in the effort to cultivate a skill of mine, meant the absolute world to me. Don't get me wrong, my uncle isn't cold or anything on the contrary he is very supporting and warm but I was really touched by this act. It is the very small warm gestures that really stay in memory and make each individual unique. By remembering a personality trait or a hobby of someone you love, you have the ability of showing them appreciation and interest in them.
This week i challenge you to make a simple thoughtful gesture to a person you love, be it a note or a gift. Good luck😉



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You've had the same thoughts too, don't deny it

Watch from a distance, observe. A little rule I go by.
From my very limited knowledge of life, the jungle we live in, I've learned that people change in the blink of an eye and sacrifice the right things for the wrong reasons. Go to unimaginable limits to reach their desires. Some even intentionally break others on the inside in order to attain their goals. Slowly I've realized that they break others in an attempt to fix themselves. People are so complex. So deep. Filled with so much passion, emotion, history, scars. It's endless.
The world is not big, it's overwhelmingly huge.
Yes, I am young, I am vulnerable, I am fragile but I am also like a caterpillar trying to bloom into a butterfly, struggling to understand the secrets of the big world, desperately wanting to remain young, safe and carefree, determined to fly. Like many my age I am caught in the middle, confused, trying to find my way, lost.
 
There is so much I don't understand, so much I don't know.
And although I am a firm believer that knowledge is light, I can only say that sometimes behind the dark there lies the indescribably scary upon which I would rather not shed any light. Ignorance is bliss
But you know what, I am not the first one to feel this way, the days are ahead of me to figure out what needs to be figured out. It's all so tangled up, so complex but that's ok for things will eventually fall into place.

So whatever your struggles are, whatever you feel is weighing you down just say that it'll resolve itself, don't let anything control your thoughts or eat your brain, keep your thoughts on the things that lift you up and make you feel blessed.

No Regrets

Time, a word from old english origin meaning the indefinite continuing in existence. Or at least that is how it's defined in my dictionary. I like to regard time as one of the most precious treasures given to us yet probably the one used the worst.
"I don't have the time" is an excuse we often use to avoid doing a certain activity. Yes, I do think it's just an excuse. As defined above time is indefinite, so how could we mark out its boundary ?
It is so often that we feel stressed, pressured and tense because we spread ourselves too thin. Those are the moments in our every day lives where we are very prone to unconsciously reacting negatively in daily life situations. Anger, pain, stress and brokenness evoke the same unconscious reaction. We do things in one second that can make us live our lives in regret. But don't worry because there is a way to limit our impulsive reactions. This week's blog post is a step-by-step guide to help restrict our reaction speed.

Step one
Distance yourself from the situation if possible. It is so often that we start an argument simply because of the mere sight of the person bothering us. A good way to avoid a fight is to take yourself out of the situation in order to reflect upon it and be able to decide what is the right decision to make. That way your conscious mind will be engaged in reaching a conclusion. And you'll find peace and quiet and be able to relax, resulting in clearer thoughts.

Step two
Try to find out the core of your anger or frustration. Sometimes the smallest of things get on our nerves simply because we've been having a bad day. A good way to do that is to recap on your day and try to find out the essence of what started the spiraling negative energy. If possible try to avoid the source of that energy.

Step three
Clear your mind. stop thinking of your friend who lost your favorite book, or the one that took credit for your work. Simply lie on the grass or on your bed, look up and clear your mind. Let go of all negative energy and try to find things that made you smile throughout the day. Was it your coworker who complimented your style this morning? Possibly a phone call of a person you haven't seen in a long time? Or maybe even someone on the pavement that smiled at you. Regardless just remember something that truly brightened your day and shift your focus onto it.

I know that life can get a bit overwhelming whatever age-group you are in, when put in situations where our patience is being put to the test we all need to remember anything positive in our lives, whether that's as simple as having had your favorite breakfast or as big as having saved a child. The important thing is that we focus more on the plusses (optimism) and less on the minuses (pessimism)
I hope that during the darkest of days you remember that I BELIEVE IN YOU..

What do you like to do?

Last week I watched a YouTuber called Connor Franta. He made a video asking people what they liked to do. The video has really inspired me that's why for this week I decided to change things up and do my own little twist on it. ( Connor's video: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=dhiETGlKEoU)
I like to do quite a bunch of things amongst which there is reading, writing and taking artistic pictures. No, I'm not claiming that i'm the best writer or the fastest reader or the most professional photographer. I don't let that stop me, I continue to share my writing, read my books and freeze moments. The absolute need to be the best is something I don't find within me, I simply enjoy each of these activities. There is something about art in general that really fascinates me. I'm driven and passionate and that's all that really matters

Something I've learned is that we all have a talent of some kind. Each of us is exceptionally good at something in which we should take all measures to reach our full potential. And while many believe they are 'nothing extra' or 'normal' they don't realize that there is a wonderful in the ordinary. It's all about perspective. We all are what we believe ourselves to be, so believe that you are special and talented.
Long story short I want you to click off this page and start thinking of your special aspect, I want you to have millions of ideas, questions and thoughts flying through your head but mainly this one: What do I like to do?

Don't let anyone dull your sparkle

I know how you feel, lost in the middle with no end in mind. It's almost as if the roller-coaster we call life is getting a bit too overwhelming. Everything is spiraling out of control and you can do absolutely nothing about it. It feels like you're disappointing everyone you love and that people look down upon you. The very fact that life confronts you with challenges you haven't been expecting is quite intimidating. You know what, I think we've all felt and will feel that way at some point in our lives. Life IS scary, I'm not claiming it isn't. And we are often brought to our knees by the tests we are put in but we need to realize that it is all up to US, it's up to us to refuse to give up on ourselves, to get back up when life knocks us down, to be ambitious, determined and persistent. It's all in our hands if we believe in our abilities and strength. See, life is so simple yet so complicated, complete irrationality. It gives you the bad and expects you to be the good. It is the ones who are confident of their ability to excel and outshine the sun that will reach their potential. The ones whose solidity comes from within. It's the craziest of dreams and the most absurd of ideas that are realized successfully. Dream, dream big. Never lose hope in your aspirations. Believe that you'll be able to get to where you want to be. Dare to implement your thoughts.
 Believe that you will prove everyone wrong. But most importantly, the part that will make all the difference is your belief in your own self .



I BELIEVE IN YOU



P.S.: This topic has been discussed and written about by many great philosophers and has beautiful quotes on it. I still felt the need to shed some light upon the fact that believing in oneself has a power beyond what you'd expect it to.

Students will relate

Dear student,

So it was that dreaded week again. The week of suffering that everyone despises. Full of stress, tension and the constant inner debate of whether or not you’ll make it through. I know you might not believe me when I say this but you will. You will be able to overcome every obstacle along the way. If it’s not clear what I am talking about yet, it’s final’s week. I think we’ve all been through the feeling of drowning in all the papers and homework we haven’t started.  I know the tension can get overwhelming when you’re in the exam room with millions of questions flying through your head. Have I studied enough? Am I smart enough? Thinking about your score and transcript. Will my grades be sufficient to get me to where I’ve always wanted to be?  You feel the tension and fear creeping in. You compare your answers to those of your friends’ after the exam and it only makes you more nervous. This just doesn’t add up!

And then comes the day when you find out your results. Have you passed? Did the hours of focused studying pay off? You take a deep breath and approach the scoring list, look for your name and then find the corresponding grade. Have you reached the goals you’ve anticipated? Did you work hard enough? I want you to remember while looking at the scoring board that whatever grade you’ve gotten is one that you deserve. Depending on your grade you can either use it as a soothing reward, in that case please consider the feelings of those who have gotten worse grades or you can use it as a wakeup call to focus on your future and put more effort into your studies. Either way you need to keep in mind that your grades do not define you, they say nothing about your sense of humor or your ability to make others happy. They state nothing of your personality. They just show you your academic level in a certain subject or field at a certain time, that’s all.

We never take note of one particular fact though. That is that we are blessed, blessed to know about our exams and the specified topics and to have teachers who explain the topics to us prior to our testing. That is because life is a series of confrontations but the difference is that the challenges of life are given randomly at any time in any field and it’s often so, that we only learn the lesson after the test. Sounds quite hard, don’t it?

I’d like school without the exams just as much as I’d like life without the challenges but unfortunately that’s not the case.

I’m writing this after one of the most stressful weeks out there telling you that you can do it and will continue to do it, even if you don’t believe so yourself, I BELIEVE IN YOU

Let's get real

"Look at the full half of the cup" how many times have you heard that sentence? And yet it doesn't seem to make you shift your perspective on the problems of our complex lives. Well, have you ever asked yourself why we can't adjust to such simple guidelines? The answer is simply the fact that they're not realistic. Let's face it, no one's life is full of flowers and rainbows, we all have our ups and downs, it's part of reality. And while being optimistic opens the doors of success and power,  it's important to keep a view of life through the lens of both optimism and realism. This week I want to give you some tools to help you lead a realistically optimistic life..

Firstly, you need to know your capabilities and understand your potential. Focus on what you can do, it's so often that people fail due to their focus on the wrong aspects of their personality. Look for that one characteristic that differentiates between you and everyone else.

It's crucial to remember that everyone has limitations. If you hit a wall, back up, you can't keep banging your head against it. Accept your limitations and live with them.

After determining your potential and limit, challenge yourself. Look at your long term goals and set yourself small realistic aims accordingly. Pride yourself upon completing them one by one. You'll not only be closer to your dreams and aspirations but you'll plan your life effectively rather than hoping for a good outcome without actually having drawn your own blueprint for it.

Seize the moment, being realistic doesn't mean overanalyzing every single detail. It means hoping for the best within a reasonable range. It means knowing the facts while adding a positive twist on your opinions and thoughts. Don't expect a miracle for that is irrational.


Accept life with all its flaws. You can't live life without the bad parts for it wouldn't be worthwhile. It's a package deal. Just like a melody with high and low keys, both of them shape the melody to perfection

So is the cup half full after all?